Your Brain is Lying to You.
This week I am sad to say that I coached several people on their fear of not being enough.
Not thin enough
Not pretty enough
Not smart enough
Not masculine enough
Not successful enough
Not organized enough
Just not good enough
Let's settle this once and for all.
Being enough is not a real thing.
If it was, who decides that we are enough?
Where is the dividing line of enough /not enough?
Are babies enough?
At what point in that baby's life does he/she become not enough?
Ask yourself these questions. They don’t make sense.
And yet, we all FEEL unworthy at times.
Because every one of us has a brain that tells us that we are not enough.
And our brains will lie to us all day long.
My client’s are being real. They are being honest. They are being human.
This is a question that we all wrestle with. Our deepest fear is that we aren’t lovable or worthy enough to love and live well.
And It is normal. Nothing is wrong with you. It is exactly what is supposed to happen.
It is the job of our very well intentioned but somewhat misguided brain to protect us.
Each and every one of us have a brain that is hard wired to tell us that we are not enough in order to prevent us from doing anything that it considers risky, hard or just plain uncomfortable.
Our job is to simply understand how our brain works and then lovingly supervise it. We get to be in charge. We get to decide to stop using up our energy wondering if we are enough. It robs us of the energy that we need to get where we want to go.
THE QUESTION HAS ALREADY BEEN ANSWERED.
We were created to live and to love and to do it in our own unique way. We each have inherent value simply because we are alive.
CHOOSE to Believe it. FEEL your worthiness.
DECIDE to never entertain the question of your worthiness again.
DECIDE to love your life, your body, your job, your business right now.
DECIDE to take the energy that you spent feeling bad about yourself and now spend it on creating the life that you ARE worthy of.
Decide to do it from a place of love, joy and fun. It doesn’t have to be hard.
Consider this your personal invitation to love and to create the life of your dreams. All it takes is a decision.
Choose to have an amazing day worthy of you!
BA., Certified Life and Weight Loss Coach
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As an entrepreneur, you are probably juggling numerous balls at the same time and quite often feeling a sense of overwhelm...the “am I getting anywhere” syndrome, “was this the right decision” worry and above all else...the “CAN I REALLY DO THIS” question...
During my entire life as an entrepreneur, I have learned some very specific strategies that have helped guide me through those “doubt” questions and move me forward into each adventure...I am an adventure seeker.
My Five Ways to Live Better approach has given me a focus point, attitude and centered approach to accomplishing how I want to show up in the world and make a difference ...everything you want to accomplish starts with YOU showing up BETTER in the WORLD...your success will fall into place as you become the best version of you...
1) Start Your Day With INSPIRATION
This can be as simple as reading for just a few minutes or working out while listening to a thought provoking podcast or book. Some of my favorites are inspirational leaders on YouTube. They help me think bigger and more focused and those 45 minutes on the treadmill fly by for me. Maybe you will become more centered after taking time to do 30 minutes of art or listening to some inspirational music. Whatever you decide to incorporate, your morning routine can set the tone for your day and your goal is to start your day INSPIRED!
2) Be YOUR Best
Be the BEST version of you! Remember, wherever you go, you take yourself with you so get up, show up and be READY! And it’s not easy all the time. But the fact remains that LIKE attracts LIKE. And the better you are, the more you will be surrounded by like minded people. We become the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with so choose your environment wisely! The goal is to be your best...be BETTER than yesterday!
3) Be MINDFUL With Your Choices
This area can be SO hard ...the truth is, we ARE stronger than we think! It just takes a second to pause and think…”will this be good for me?” “how will I feel afterwards?” This applies to so many things...eating, shopping, what we choose to SAY to someone... BE MINDFUL
So PAUSE...think, then choose. The goal is to REALIZE that you have the power to choose!
4) Be KIND
Always, always, always tell those you care about that you love them...EVERYDAY. Maybe help a stranger in need or ask the clerk at the store how she is doing ...look at their name tag and address them by name. I promise, you will lift them up and you will feel equally good. The goal here is to recognize the LOVE in your heart and use it to be BETTER!
5) Be PROUD of YOU
Too many times we are so HARD on ourselves! Take a time out and reflect on just how GOOD you are! I don’t mean boastful, I mean really realizing YOUR gifts, what you have to share with the world. There is only ONE of you, so be PROUD of that…you have gifts that ONLY YOU possess and it’s time for you to share them!
Liz Geeslin, Better Lifestyle Solutions
Hello? Anyone out there? Are you feeling like no one is seeing your social media post? Nothing more frustrating to create an amazing social media post with no engagement – can you say crickets!?!
Problem is linked to algorithms. What is an algorithm anyways? “A process or set of rules to be followed in calculations or other problem-solving operations, especially by a computer.” What does that even mean? Basically, if you don’t find a way to play the algorithm matrix, you’ll be unnoticed if there isn’t a new way to capture your audience.
Facebook now suggest you pay to boost your post to get more visibility, but does that really work? Without the certainty it does, many have moved over to Instagram to only find they are still not getting the engagement.
For myself and my business I wanted to share with you what I’ve learned from some social media marketing experts that has been good for my visibility. Here’s what I’ve learned and use:
Commit fully to a consistent schedule for positing. Example may include a Monday through Friday schedule and only add Sat and Sun if it seems aligned with your message. Develop consistent content that your tribe will expect. I go live on Facebook with a Monday Motivation and TuneUp Thursdays. I’ve done this for over a year. I upload them to my YouTube channel and share across all the other social media platforms.
Hashtags work if you know how to work them. Hashtags are good for others to search and find content on any platforms. Instagram suggest using the most, around 25 hashtags, where Facebook and LinkedIn only 3-4. Keep them consistent to your brand and use them on everything.
Words to avoid – as the algorithms get wiser, they are not allowing “anything sales related” unless you pay for the boost. These words include buy, free, comment, tag, sale, discount, click.
Repurpose old content when you feel you have hit a wall in what to share, go back a year or two and find content that resonates with you. Then make a new post with that content. Chances are your audience doesn’t remember it, and may you don’t either, but the timing may be right on point in this moment.
Lastly, being and keep it consistence and persistency. Even if it seems now one is watching, they are. They may not be commenting or liking but they are seeing your message loud and clear. Trust and believe that to be true. I had a client I met over three years prior and never communicated with her after are initial meeting. Out of the blue she contacts me and says I’ve been following you past three years and I want to hire you as my coach. Trust and believe.
Connect with Melissa at firstname.lastname@example.org or visit her website at www.findyourowndrive.com
One of the biggest hurdles many entrepreneurs face is follow up. We know we should do it but we just don't know what to do or who to reach out to. So here are a few tips I've learned about follow up from two different direct sales groups.
2x2x2: Focus on the People
Hashtags were first found on Twitter but have since grown in popularity and can now be used across all social media platforms. The purpose of using hashtags is to bring companies and people from all over the world to one page by sharing the same word or phrase. Typing a # in a search bar will bring up everyone’s post that has ever used that #. For example: #ThrowbackThursday #selfie #wackywednesday #justdoit #noexcuses. Check it out… Go onto Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram, type any # in the search bar and see what comes up! Using hashtags for your brand will help your SEO ranking on Google and help to get your page noticed.
Tips for #Hashtagsforbusiness:
1) Create a hashtag that is NOT your business name. Younger customers will automatically view your company as outdated if your hashtag is your company name. Get creative! Using your tagline can give some great inspiration. #womenofevolve is also the hashtag used for a women’s clothing line in Europe. When you go to #womenofevolve, you’ll not only see our posts but you’ll see theirs too. Pretty cool!
2) Use a popular hashtag along with your company slogan hashtag. For instance, #womenofevolve #attitudeofgratitude or #changinglives #motivationmonday. You want one for your company and one popular hashtag for each post if possible. Don’t go hashtag crazy. An entire paragraph of hashtags is going overboard and is annoying at best.
3) Using apps like Ripl (which automatically give you 3 options of social media posts to choose from and will include a popular trending hashtag) can take the guesswork out of what is trending and what to post. You’ll look like a pro!
Using hashtags is a fun way to connect with others in the world. You can literally make a #outofanything! #Ihopeyouwillusethem!